We are talking about certain individuals in our lives.
We are so full of praise to our family, relatives, friends and neighbors who are so kind and loving and who have helped us so much in our life journey.
We can tell about their good deeds, their distinctive character, their favorite hobbies and pastimes, their progress and achievements, their whereabouts, and many other matters.
But we have nothing much to say when it comes to sharing about family, relatives, friends and neighbors who are not that close to us.
We don't remember some of their names, we don't know their whereabouts, we have nothing to say about their family, and we have never greeted them though they are our next door neighbors.
But surprisingly we have a lot of bad things to talk about them......
We regard them as unfriendly and inconsiderate.
We regard them as unhelpful and rude.
We regard them as arrogant and proud.
We regard them as a loner and a loser.
We regard them as disorganized and undisciplined.
We regard them as reckless drivers, filthy old men, womanizers, wife beaters, great grumbler, and many many more.
We seem to know so much about them than they realized.
I am afraid sometimes we are wrong.
And this habit of talking bad behind others' backs is not healthy and can have serious repercussions.....
And so I sit down in a corner and ponder...
We need to know them very well before we form any judgment at all.
We need to talk and listen to them personally instead of talking behind their backs.
We need to learn to think and speak nicely of them.
Then I start to think nicely about some of those around me...
Then I shake my head and tell myself it will be difficult...
... I realize I have been very negative these days....
We are so full of praise to our family, relatives, friends and neighbors who are so kind and loving and who have helped us so much in our life journey.
We can tell about their good deeds, their distinctive character, their favorite hobbies and pastimes, their progress and achievements, their whereabouts, and many other matters.
But we have nothing much to say when it comes to sharing about family, relatives, friends and neighbors who are not that close to us.
We don't remember some of their names, we don't know their whereabouts, we have nothing to say about their family, and we have never greeted them though they are our next door neighbors.
But surprisingly we have a lot of bad things to talk about them......
We regard them as unfriendly and inconsiderate.
We regard them as unhelpful and rude.
We regard them as arrogant and proud.
We regard them as a loner and a loser.
We regard them as disorganized and undisciplined.
We regard them as reckless drivers, filthy old men, womanizers, wife beaters, great grumbler, and many many more.
We seem to know so much about them than they realized.
I am afraid sometimes we are wrong.
And this habit of talking bad behind others' backs is not healthy and can have serious repercussions.....
And so I sit down in a corner and ponder...
We need to know them very well before we form any judgment at all.
We need to talk and listen to them personally instead of talking behind their backs.
We need to learn to think and speak nicely of them.
Then I start to think nicely about some of those around me...
Then I shake my head and tell myself it will be difficult...
... I realize I have been very negative these days....
